“Waking up to who you are requires letting go who you imagine yourself to be”, ~Alan Watts
We have been hearing it “be yourself” too often and yes, we feel cool, strong and confident enough after digesting it, but wait… do we really feel “our self” in us?
I always wonder what does actually mean that?
We usually have turned ourselves in the shape of what other wants and without realizing that we are no more us!
There will never be anyone else like you in the future of the universe. There has never been anyone exactly like you since human life began. That’s why being yourself is more important than anything else; certainly more than the fear that traps people into conforming.
Our true self is who we really are when we let go of all of the stories, labels, and judgments that we have placed upon ourselves. It is who we naturally are without the masks and pretentiousness.
To be true to yourself means to act in accordance with who you are and what you believe.
Well, it needs lot of courage first of all to accept who you are.. not as as someone else thinks you should be. Do not take action or pretend to be someone else for the sake of gaining acceptance.
When you do things that are not genuine or a reflection of the real you, you will not be happy with yourself and will end up confused. You’ll be confused because you won’t know whom to please, or how. Sometimes changing your personality to please someone can damage your own inner, your own self and your own beautiful soul and remember that it takes lot of time to be back on the track to your own self.
Self-respect also comes from being true to who you really are and from acting in accordance with your fundamental nature.
When you respect yourself, others will respect you. They will sense that you are strong and capable of standing up for yourself and your beliefs.
When you are true to yourself, you allow your individuality and uniqueness to shine through. You respect the opinions of others but do not conform to stereotypes or their expectations of you.
Below are some steps that have helped me in uncovering my real nature, which is that being outside of the accumulated thoughts and beliefs that I have collected over a lifetime.
Get in touch with your inner child.
Feel free like you will notice just how free they are and how little they care about what other people think of them. They are happy and in the moment.
Children are just pure love and light. If you really want to get in touch with your inner child, become freer. Play, have fun, enjoy the moment, do cartwheels in the front yard.
Follow your intuition.
This is probably one of the most important factors in being yourself. I ignored my intuition for the longest time because I felt so obligated to others. Their happiness was more important than my own.
I will tell you one thing from my personal experience when you start following the little nudges and urges that you get, you will have hopped onto the magic carpet ride of awesomeness.t doesn’t mean that you will never have bumps in the road again, but when you are in alignment with your soul, you will always be steered in the best possible direction.
Sometimes you find your intuition out of your family and friends where you are thought to be perfect, always ‘yes’ person, always strong, always available, you can’t find relations on your own because you are born to obey them, which might way out of character for you… Well, i do not suggest to back off promptly no.. but yes you need to stand for yourself too.
Yes we respect everything, everyone but no… leaving behind our own self due to the false respects? This is the thing you should not compromise because you are all you have got.
Never loss touch of your natural you…
Loosing your nature brings biggest chaos in life we simply cannot even imagine. Stop thinking for acceptance by other.
Become more aware of your thoughts.
You may be shocked by the number of negative thoughts that run through your mind on any given day. After so long, our reality begins to take shape based on all of these conditioned thinking patterns.
Become more aware of the quality of your thinking. Allow yourself to sit quietly every morning before starting your day for just five to ten minutes.
Yes, thoughts will come and go, but just allow them to do that without getting attached to them. Just observe them. When you are finished, continue observing the mind throughout your day.
We have so many unconscious beliefs that we have taken on over the years that were probably handed down to us from somebody else, and that we believed to be who we are. Becoming more aware of the quality of your thoughts, letting go of the old beliefs, and becoming more present can help in revealing your true nature.
To be true to yourself takes courage. It requires you to be introspective, sincere, open-minded and fair. It does not mean that you are inconsiderate or disrespectful of others. It means that you will not let others define you or make decision for you that you should make for yourself.
Be true to the very best that is in you and live your life consistent with your highest values and aspirations. Those who are most successful in life have dared to creatively express themselves and in turn, broaden the experiences and perspectives of everyone else.
Being yourself is enough to succeed too!
We live in an era of self-proclaimed gurus, experts and innovators. We are constantly looking for the next Steve Jobs and Bill Gates. We religiously read books on how we can become rich and successful.
We obsessively share articles on how successful people think, spend their weekends, summer holidays and invest their money. We naively believe that we can become billionaires overnight. I seriously think we got it all wrong!
Do not put unnecessary pressures on yourself to live someone else’s life instead of enjoying our own.Not just that. We attach ourselves to these ideas that have nothing to do with our lives and dreams. Instead of doing it ourselves, we are continually forced to copy tactics and ideas that might not necessarily work for us.
Aren’t you a bit tired of the pressure to do things certain way? To do things the way “successful” people do them? I am not even sure that truly successful people even write or read these kinds of articles. Live your life the way you want to live it. Set your own goals and agendas. Fail. Do things your own way.
Believing in yourself is only the first step on your road to success. Do you know what is more important? ACTION! You need to be a person of action. You need to be one step ahead of everyone else. You have to continuously evolve and learn new things. You also have to learn to accept failure because hey, success rarely comes overnight. So, believe in yours.
How about doing and creating things in your own way? How about creating something that is yours, something that is unique? I am seriously tired of the burden to be like these major brands. I cannot be and I don’t want to be like them. Every business is different.
What works for Google might not work for me. Facebook is an amazing brand and their work is outstanding but this is their way of doing things, not yours. Find your own way. Create your own culture. Don’t feel pressurized to be like someone else.
Don’t be afraid to be who you really are. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Work tirelessly on creating your own best version. Create your own definition for success. This is your life. Your story. Make it a good one! And remember, sometimes being your true self is more than enough to succeed.
Never chose a person for your life who wants to change you.. sorry he/she is not the real person.. Real person is the one who would love you and accept you the way you are and never let go off such people if you find them!
Be you, bring your inner demons out and trust me they would be much beautiful than the posed superficial angels of outside….